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M.I.S.S. Muses: Open to What We Really Want

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Open to What We Really Want


Recently, I had a long overdue meet up with a dear friend. We got each other up-to-date over lychee martinis, and as we moved into dinner, we opened up more about real issues in each of our lives. It wasn’t that we weren’t being open or honest before, but the conversation got deeper as we revealed fears and wishes we each had.

We started to talk about things we wish were different, and the efforts to make these things happen. Conversation moved around what we want, what we are comfortable taking action on, and the corresponding risks and disappointments. My friend shared how there are few people who are physically close that she also feels emotionally close to. There are fun friends to go out with, people we call for certain situations or types of events, but a much smaller group of friends we don’t have to explain ourselves to or filter what we invite them to or call on them for. Some we’d invite to a streetwear party, others to a gay bar, but who would we call if we had a scary health concern we needed support with? Who would help us out of a jam?

As she spoke, I was honored and impressed how in just telling me these things she was already opening up. It’s the same as if she were to call someone when something was really wrong- she’d be opening up to that person. To ask for help requires letting ourselves be vulnerable and reveal that to someone else. I appreciate how difficult that can be; I personally have a sensitive spot about letting others see my vulnerabilities.

Perhaps we don’t really know how close we are to others or what circle of friends we can consider them unless we give them a chance. We have to open up, which may result in us being rejected, misunderstood, or unheard. Still, we have be open to connect on the level we want and have our needs met. Some people know when to be there for us and exactly what we need, and they should be cherished. Since they are so rare and valuable, it’s up to us to let others know what we are in need of, and give them a shot.

Take a chance on others and reveal your true self.

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Embracing Insomnia

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Embracing Insomnia


Recently, I’ve found myself wide awake at 2 am. As I’ve become more aware of it, it turns out that most nights I’m wide awake in the middle of the night and nothing makes me tired. I have tried relaxation methods, I have made sure I clear my mind, I’ve tried to do all the things that normally make me sleepy. After being frustrated that my sleep schedule was off, I finally decided to take it for what it is and make it work for me.

A few weeks in of trying to reset my inner clock and making sure I was properly prepping myself for sleep, I decided to go in a different direction. Since I was feeling alert in the night and staying awake well into the morning, why not get up and be productive? So, I started crossing off things on my to-do list. I cleaned, sent emails, organized, made more lists for tomorrow/later today. I started powering through things, and after a few hours, I was ready for bed. I’d get things done and sleep later than I would normally like, but I felt like the morning hours I missed were already made up for from the night before.

After a while, I started to get into a rhythm. I’d go through my day, go on with my night, wind down a bit, and when I wasn’t going to go to sleep, get up and do some more. Then I’d sleep, get up, and start all over again. But the best part of it was, I felt free. Sure, I would rather go to sleep and get up at normal hours to function within the business world, but I was happy to let go of frustration and make do with what I have. The moment I accepted my sleeping is the way it is was the moment I got power to do what I want with it.

What’s there in your life that you wish was different? Consider there might be a way to embrace it and make it work.

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Real Teamwork

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Real Teamwork


I know, it’s slightly cheesy to refer to teamwork as an inspiration. And stock images of businesspeople working in teams doesn’t make it any less corny. However, beyond the trite notions and images of  team-building exercises, when people genuinely work as a team for the benefit of a group, it really is great to be a part of.

The past couple weeks have given me a glimpse at what it’s like to really work with people as a team. Not just for yourself to get things done and obliging others so you can get to where you want to individually, but helping others out to help out and sacrificing when needed. Sometimes it meant the whole focus was for them, sometimes it was my time to shine. It was for a collective purpose though, not just individuals having to work with each other. It was working together, which is stronger than each alone.

Unfortunately, most of us don’t really work as a team in practice. In every place I have worked there have been groups working, but it was more people working in the vicinity of others rather than furthering each others’ goals and achievements. There have been empty motions and ideas thrown out, even from nice people who intend well. We just tend to look out for ourselves first, not trust others, and then reach out when we see benefit for self. There have been instances when I have truly liked who I have worked with and they liked me, and when it came down to crunch time, we rolled up our sleeves and pitched in even if it meant sacrificing our own stuff to pull the other person through. That hasn’t been the norm, but it is so much more empowering and pleasant to be in.

Consider pitching in, genuinely giving your all for someone else, for someone on one of your life’s teams.

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Good in a World of Chaos

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Good in a World of Chaos


With all going on in the world today, it’s natural for the mind to go to all the negative rather than pull out any positive. It seems even the newscasts can’t even keep up with all the devastation going on, with reports jumping between updates on political revolution and the latest in natural disaster effects. But even amidst all the heartbreak and negativity going on, if you look closely, there are pieces of good that can be taken from recent world events.

It’s disheartening to keep up with and listen to the news these days. People are dying. Nations are fighting their own people. Mother Nature proves she is a force we can’t defeat. The effects of revolution and natural disaster ripple into displaced people and devastating living conditions. Anyone paying attention to current events in the world can easily become depressed.

However, if you look at the people who are fighting fights for something better, there is something very heartening and uplifting in the face of so much disaster. People are reaching out to those less fortunate. Neighbors are protecting neighbors and the better equipped look to shield the less able or healthy. People who have lost everything keep going with admirable spirit and perseverance, setting an example for those of us who aren’t in such circumstances. If you are feeling down or defeated, take a look at those who are fighting for what they believe in, their loved ones, and their lives. Take a cue from those whose worlds are flipped upside down and appreciate your own life and all the benefits we have at hand now. If we’ve learned nothing else, it’s that the good things we have aren’t guaranteed.

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Female Network

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M.I.S.S. Muses: Female Network


Depending where we are in life, names, faces, numbers, and relationships with friends vary. We may feel blessed with a large group or just a special one, but no matter how many or who we consider our friends, it’s important to keep these connections for our own happiness and sanity. And even though ladies can be catty or competitive, there truly is nothing like the female bond and our network of women.

During joyful times, the reality of our joy seems to be best realized when sharing the news with someone. No matter how much we may squeal and jump up and down alone, the celebration is somehow magnified when we tell someone else. The moment becomes more real. And there are some circumstances and celebrations that only another woman can understand. From small triumphs with something we finally said, a sweet moment with a loved one, or a step in our best direction career-wise, some things are best understood by another lady. Whether going out or hanging out in pajamas, some situations just call for one or several of our best gals.

Then there are times that we need to lean on someone, share the burden, or ease the shock with. Again, some situations are only understood by another woman. Life deals us love devastation, health letdowns, family disappointments, and so much more being at any given time. It’s so important to have a fellow lady who doesn’t just come out for toasts, but sticks around after the bubbles fizzle. Some hurts pass while others linger; no matter what the duration, sometimes to just know someone solidly has your back can make all the difference. It seems the real friends we keep and treasure in life choose to step up and stick around during these tougher times, and those types of friends are invaluable.

Sometimes our gender gets feisty with each other. We snap at those we love and criticize those we don’t even know. And while it’s human nature, perhaps make it your nature to love the women in your life. You never know when you’ll want them to show love for you.

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