Dear MISSter Simms,
I’ve been secretly seeing someone for the past year. He’s married, and we have a very intense sexual relationship. However, I have the feeling that he is seeing another person and doesn’t want anything to do with me. He hadn’t contacted me in a while, so I called him and gave him the signal that I wanted to talk to him (ring once, hang up). He never returned my call.
I then decided to write him a letter. I wanted desperately to know why he hadn’t contacted me in so long. His response? Why did I send a letter to his house! After that he officially broke it off with me. My question is: why? And how can I talk to him and possibly convince him to take me back?
Why doesn’t your former secret lover want anything to do with you anymore? Gee, I don’t know…Could it be because you sent a love letter to his house? You know, the same house where his wife presumably lives? Here’s the thing about being someone’s jump-off. Entering into that type of relationship with someone is kind of like the same as when two would-be drug dealers decide to get in the game. In both situations when you get caught up, your not supposed to snitch to the Feds (who in your case is the wife). While snitching drug dealers usually get shot in the head, you luckily only get dropped like a sack of liposuctioned fat. Really, though, I think you did all that on purpose to get his attention. Why else would you send a handwritten letter to the guys house? Considering that you wrote me this letter, I know you’re familiar with the internet and email, a perfectly valid way to get in touch with someone without alerting their significant other.
I have no idea why your secret boo stopped contacting you in the first place, but I can tell you that whatever you had is definitely over now. While you’ve got all this downtime, I suggest you go out there and look for someone who isn’t married. You’d be surprised how much better off a relationship like that would be.
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