Dear MISSter Simms,
I’ve been together with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and lately we’ve been talking about getting married. One of the things my boyfriend hates, however, and something that would keep him from marrying me, is that I keep pictures of my guy friends and ex-boyfriends on my computer. He really wants me to delete them all, but so far I’ve rejected that idea. Is it fair for him to want me to delete them? I mean, these are my memories we are talking about here. Is he trying to be overly controlling or what? Or should I just acquiesce and delete the pictures?
Holding On to Memories
Hell no don’t delete those pictures! Each of those pictures serves as a reminder of where you’ve come from and what you’ve learned along the way (they could also serve as a tool for other things…if you catch my not so subtle drift). How will you be able to remember all that important stuff if you can’t even take a look back at your past? Who owns your past, anyway? You, or your current boo?
Here’s the thing. When your boo wants you to forget about your loved ones in the past, it means they’ve got some serious insecurity issues going on. It also makes him a tad bit possessive. None of those are a good thing. Remind him that he’s your one and only right now, but if he keeps insisting on you deleting all your pictures, you might want to consider making him a part of your past and keeping it moving.
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