Dear MISSter Simms,
I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for about six months. Things have generally been going great. When we’re around each other, it’s like we don’t have a care in the world. However, like any couple we occasionally have our fights, and in our case they always happen to be about his ex-girlfriend. She just has this habit of trying to get in the way of our relationship. I actually consider her my friend, but she’s always talking about how she still loves my boyfriend and that I need to break up with him so they can get back together. My boyfriend claims he doesn’t love her anymore, but I wonder sometimes…Anyway, I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend, because he’s a pretty great guy. What can I say to his ex to get her from trying to break us up and to stop being a thorn in my side?
It sounds like you either a) befriended your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend (why you would do that is behind me…) or b) are dating the ex-boyfriend of someone who was already your friend. Either way, you done bleeped up.
Stop talking to the ex-girlfriend ASAP. If she calls, don’t answer. If she continues to blow up your phone, throw it in a swamp, or do something more sensible like changing your number. If you really have to pick up the phone, don’t talk for too long. I’m talking like 2-3 minutes tops. You want to get her out of your life so you can be like Mary J. Blige and have no more drama.
Now, if this girl was already your friend, and for some crazy reason you’re dating her ex, you might wanna back off and reevaluate your life. Who does that? Whatever happened to chicks before…you know. And the girl has told you she still has feelings for the dude? If you value your friendship with the girl at all, you should break it off with him and find a new boyfriend that your friends haven’t dated before.
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