Dear MISSter Simms,
I’m a pretty nice person, which at times has gotten me into more bad situations than I would like. Not too long ago I hooked up with a friend of mine. We were both mutually attracted to each other and had been for some time, so I figured, “Why not?” Now, I’m a single girl in her 20s and to be quite honest I’m perfectly fine and happy being single until the right guy comes along. But a girl has needs, and my friend was there to satisfy them. Anyway, before we did anything I laid down the ground rules just in case he thought what we were going to do meant more than it actually was. He acted like he agreed. Afterward, he started trying to treat me like I was his girlfriend or something! He calls way too much, does the same with text messaging, and I’m pretty sure he’s Facebook stalking me too as he’s recently added a bunch of my friends.
Now, like I said, I’m a pretty nice person. What can I do to let this guy know he needs to back off without flipping out on him?
Has A Clinger
Shoulda kept the cat in the bag, and by bag I mean pants. Now your 15 minutes of happiness has caused you a countless amount of pain, misery, and suffering. Oh well! These are the risks we take when we boink long time friends with access to all forms of communication instead of random strangers off of Craigslist.
So, how do you get rid of this guy without ripping his heart into a billion pieces and pooping on each and every one individually? Simple! Write him a letter detailing how you enjoyed your friendship before everything happened, and how things have gotten to a place where you never really wanted them to go. Let him know that he’s a great guy, but that you’re just not ready for that kind of commitment yet. Let him know that you still want to remain friends, but that you need to figure out a way to do that without the stalkerish-ness. Finish the letter off by letting him know that you guys need some space/time apart. Oh, and put it in an envelope with hand drawn hearts and ponies on it for that personal touch. He’ll appreciate it!
If that doesn’t work, just block him on all of your social networking sites and get a restraining order. None of that is being mean…per se….It’s not like insulting his mother on Mother’s Day or something.
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