Dear MISSter Simms,
I have been trying to go on a date with this guy that I like for a few months now. At first I tried to be coy and drop hints. Then, when I thought he wasn’t getting the message, I straight out asked if he wanted to go out and get some drinks or dinner. However, he always finds some way to get out of it. Instead of being bothered, though, his “excuses” are so entertaining that I can’t help but laugh and be like, “Oh well, maybe next time!” That said, should I continue trying to pursue him? Is he just playing hard to get? Or am I just being crazy and should stop contacting him altogether? Help!
Let’s see…there’s only one reason a guy would continuously turn away a girl who is practically throwing herself at him. Ok, two reasons. Assuming he’s not gay (reason one), then he’s probably just not into you. At all. I don’t know about you, but I make time for the people I like no matter what I’m doing. The people I don’t like I avoid like herpes. Right now you are the herpes, and he is doing his best not to catch you.
Time to wake up and smell the Maxwell House. You don’t necessarily need to cut off 100% communication with the dude, but definitely don’t put him at the forefront of your mind. Instead, spread your attention elsewhere on some people who will actually want to date you. You’ll be much happier, and there’s a chance that the dude you originally liked will start to miss you once you’ve stopped talking to him so much and actually warm up to the idea of dating you! Sounds crazy, but that is how guys work sometimes.
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