Dear MISSter Simms,
A few weeks ago my boyfriend went to his best friend’s bachelor party. I should have known something was going to happen when he told me the party was in Mexico. Anyway, not long after that my boyfriend started crying at dinner, and when I asked him what was wrong he told me he cheated on me with a Mexican prostitute. His friend had paid for him and all the other boys on the trip.
My boyfriend told me that keeping quiet about the affair was the hardest thing he’d done, and that it was eating away at him inside. I believed him. Between the time of the affair and the time that he told me about it, he developed a brief but severe case of hives that he thought could have been STD related but was actually due to stress and guilt. What do you think I should do? Give him another chance for being honest and sincere, or send him back to Tijuana and prostitute he hooked up with?
Forgive or Forget Him?
Of course you should give him a second chance. Had it been me, the whole prostitutes in Mexico thing would have remained under lock and key in my mind, only being talked about when around the other guys who participated in the shenanigans. That might make me a bad person…but I’d rather think it makes your boyfriend an awesome one worth keeping around.
However, he did sleep with a prostitute….and I also believe a little retribution is in order before you can totally get past that situation. It can be something not super terrible, like withholding the hooty for a while. Or it could be forcing him to tell his friend’s girlfriends (if they have any) what happened south of the border. What you do is up to you.
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