Dear MISSter Simms,
I have a little problem. If I didn’t why would I be writing to you? Anyway, I have what I like to think of as two different personalities. When I’m out with my friends I’m like a loud party girl who isn’t afraid to speak her mind or even be a little crass. When I’m with guys I like, though, it’s the exact opposite. I act really shy, don’t say much, and become (I think) very boring. However, I’m with a guy now that I met out at a club a few nights ago, and initially he saw more of my wild side because I didn’t really seriously like him like that. Now my feelings are starting to change and I find myself become the shy girl again! What can I do?
Silent But Deadly
Lil Wayne may hate shy chicks, but I personally LOVE them! Really, there’s nothing inherently wrong with being a shy, quiet girl. You just have to use it to your advantage by filling up all that time used not talking with something else. A giggle, perhaps! Or a witty one liner (while talking, it is only one line) that’ll have him LHAO-ing on the floor for days. Or you can just look cute and twirl your hair around while licking an ice cream cone. It’s been my experience that people love to talk about themselves, anyway, so I’m sure during your quiet times your boo won’t mind blabbing away about how awesome he is and how his day was while you sit there intently listening. It’ll help later on down the line having things to talk about when you, say, start living with each other or something, but until that day comes make like Depeche Mode and enjoy the silence.
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