Dear Mr. Simms,
I recently took a vacation with a few of my girlfriends to celebrate my birthday. While out at a bar one night, I met a guy that I wound up hitting it off with. He was good looking, charming, and very sweet. We went back to his place, and one thing lead to another…Anyway, we spent the next day having a great time and enjoying each other’s company so much that I said I’d fly out from where I live to meet him again. It just felt so right at the time.
Not too long afterward I get a call from a number I didn’t recognize. Normally I don’t pick those up, but this time I did. Surprise surprise. It was my guy’s wife on the other line! She said they had been married for years, and that they had several (young) children together. That didn’t deter me, though. I wanted to know the other side of the story.
Of course, he said that his marriage was pretty much done for and that him and his wife weren’t even sleeping together anymore. So, I decided to meet up with him despite the drama and we had a wonderful time together. His wife found out, called me up again, and had some pretty harsh words to say. I just told her I was trying to be there in her husband’s time of need.
Him and I have such a connection. It’s unreal. But I’m worried about his situation. Am I wrong for wanting to see him and hoping that he and his wife split up as soon as possible? Should I leave him alone so he can work things out? He makes me happy…I make him happy…I just want us to be together!
Not A Homewrecker
If you know what’s good for you you’ll save the drama for your mama and cease and desist with all this tomfoolery immediately. As soon as you found out ole dude was married, you should have cut him off like a light switch. Here’s the thing: married dudes who have mistresses seldom leave their wives for their mistresses. And there’s children involved in this situation, making it even less likely that he’ll bounce on his family. Like my father always used to tell me, “It’s cheaper to keep her.” Even if he does leave his wife for you, would you actually want a dude like that? Think about it. One day you guys could get married and you could be the wife that gets left behind after a few years for some other young chick. Finally, stop being selfish and think of the dude’s wife. I know it’s hard, but just do it. Whatever happened to ladies sticking together and all that? I guess girl power died when the Spice Girls broke up.
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