Dear MISSter Simms,
I’ve been in a relationship for the past couple of years with a wonderful guy. There’s just one little problem: he smokes pot. A lot. It’s one of the main reasons why we haven’t moved in together and taken our relationship to that next level. I’ve known about his pot smoking ways since the beginning, and even then it bothered me some. But as time has gone on, and as we’ve gotten more involved with each other, I’ve become a lot more uncomfortable with his habit.
It’s a major issue in our relationship and he won’t budge on it when I try to come up with some compromises. He acts like I should just accept it and stop trying to change him. Is there some way I can get him to come around so that we can decide upon something that we both can agree on?
THC Lover’s Girl
Dear THC Lover’s Girl,
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in this relatively short life of mine it’s that people rarely change, and when they do it’s because they want to and not because someone forced them to. So, when you get into a relationship with someone who loves playing Call of Duty or something, you should know from the get-go that you’ll probably be spending most of your weekends plopped in front of a big screen TV. When you get with a guy who loves McDonald’s, he’s probably going to be hella resistant when you shove a salad in his face. And when you get with a pothead, you best believe it’s going to take a miracle for you to get between him and his true love, Mary Jane (no Spiderman).
This dude did not hide his pot loving ways when you first started dating, so you had to have known in the beginning what the deal was but you got with him anyway. Now you kind of have to accept that you’ll always come second to weed – or get to steppin’ and find a dude who doesn’t need to puff-puff-pass to the right every other day. If you stay any longer you’ll just hate each other forever. You’ll complain about his habit to no end. He’ll resent you for all your complaining and ruining his high. There’s no real way you can meet half way on this issue because it’s kind of all or nothing on his end.
Who knows? Maybe if you leave him he’ll realize he loves you more than weed and decide to quit. Then again, he might be too stoned to even realize he’s getting dumped.
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