Dear MISSter Simms,
I’ve been single for a little over a year now, and I’m starting to get tired of it. I mean…I think I’m really cute, and I know I’m a nice person. All my friends say I’m fun to be around and I try to present myself like a classy lady at all times (well, most of the time). I’ve been asked out a few times this past year, but none of the guys have been boyfriend worthy in my eyes. I’m starting to think that I’m going to be waiting indefinitely for the next Mr. Right to come along, but I’m starting to get frustrated if you know what I mean. Please help!
Single in Seattle
All the single ladies (all the single ladies)! All the single ladies (all the single ladies)! Now put your hands up! Yeah…there’s like bazillions of them out there. So take heart in the fact that you’re not alone. Why you are still single I have no idea….you didn’t exactly explain your life story or what you look for in a boyfriend. But I can think of some general reasons that may apply to you:
1. Are you warm and approachable? Nobody’s saying be a giggling airhead or anything (although….that could help attract a whole bunch of dudes….), but nobody likes the girl who bites people’s heads off praying mantis-style either. Bees may like honey, but guys like smiles.
2. There’s a chance your standards are too high. I knew a dude in high school who claimed he only wanted to date model chicks. He was kind of fugly though so that didn’t work out for him too well. Don’t be the girl version of that guy.
3. Switch up where you go to meet guys. If you and your ladies usually go to the bar downtown, why not try the club on the other side of town? Different places means different faces. Sometimes it’s good to go to a place where nobody knows your name…so they can ask you for it when starting up a conversation trying to get the digits.
4. You could be subconsciously comparing the people you date to your ex. That’s never a good look. Everybody’s different and brings something new to the table. If you find yourself doing that then cease and desist immediately. Your chances of landing a boyfriend will rise dramatically.
5. There’s also a chance that a really amazing guy has been in front of you all along, and you’ve just been too blind to see it. Think about it! Is there anyone in your life you may be overlooking right now? A male BFF perhaps? That dude who sits in the corner playing dating-sims on his PSP?
I have a feeling one of these situations applies to you, so my advice is to figure out which one it might be and start making the appropriate changes. Then, and only then, will you be ensnared in the throws of committed passion.
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