I’m having trouble deciding if I should try to get back with my ex-boyfriend or not. We’ve basically been dating mostly on and sometimes off for the past four years. Right now we’re off, and usually during these times I try to move on and find other relationships but it never actually works out. My feelings for him are still there. I saw him the other day after a month of no contact and it was just like old times. We held hands and he looked at me like he did when we first started going out.
I don’t know if it’s our long history together or if he also has feelings for me, but I do know something could be there. Should I try talking to him? Or just try and move on again. I’m kind of scared to talk about it but getting in other relationships never seems to work out either. Any and all help would be welcome.
Call It Quits?
Personally I’m all about giving people second (third, fourth, fifth, maybe even sixth depending on the circumstances) chances, which is to say you should try talking to him about it. What’s the worst that could happen? Either he shares your feelings or he doesn’t. If he doesn’t then oh well….you guys are broken up already anyway. No need to go through a messy, bitter, breakup when that part is already over and done with. Just be sure to ask yourself the following question first before having this talk of yours: why do you want to get back with him? If it’s because you love him dearly and can’t bear to live without him, then go ahead and have that talk. If it’s just because you feel comfortable around him and are afraid to take risks with other people then hold the phone, lady. If that’s the reason you two will just be endlessly making up and breaking up because there would be no real love there. Figure out which situation applies to you and act accordingly.
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