Dear MISSter Simms,
There’s this guy at school that I like. He’s very cute, smart, and funny. Everything that I look for in a guy basically. Sometimes I catch him looking at me in class, and occasionally we’ll talk to each other about homework and school related stuff after the bell rings. I really want to approach him as more than a classmate and see if he’ll want to meet up outside of class, but the problem is I’m not sure if he likes me like that or not. The side glances during class make me think it’s possible, but I’m not totally convinced yet. What are some sure fire ways to tell if a guy likes you or not?
Trust me when I say that not every guy is built exactly the same and your results may very. Still, these handful of tips could prove quite useful when trying to determine if a dude is actually into you or not.
#1 EYE CONTACT
There’s only a couple of reasons why a guy would stare at you. You could just be ugly and he might be trying to determine why. You could have something stuck in your teeth, in which case he’s staring to see how long it’ll take you to fish it out. More than likely, though, he’s looking at you because something about you intrigues him. And if he’s trying to stare at you without you noticing then some kind of feelings are definitely stirring in the ole’ noggin.
#2 TOUCHY FEELY-NESS
Believe me. A guy touching you is a pretty good indicator that he’s got the hots for you and wants to have your babies (or at least simulate the act). Could just be lots of hugs for no good reason. Oh, you got an A on your test? Hug! Oh, you ate breakfast today? Hug! Maybe he’ll “accidentally” brush up against you….many times. Or maybe, just maybe, you two will bump legs sitting next to each other and he won’t bother to move his. Surefire signs that he’s diggin’ your steelo.
#3 OVERLY CONCERNED
It’s not unusual for a friend to make sure your comfortable. But….what if they keep trying to make sure you’re comfortable all the time. A little too comfortable if you will. Making sure you’re not cold. Making sure you have everything you want. Making sure the waiter didn’t screw up your order at the restaurant and that you’ve got a constant supply of bread sticks going on. I know I’ve been guilty of this on more than one occasion when it comes to people I’ve cared about in the past.
#4 INTERESTED IN THE SAME THINGS
You like knitting? Guess what? So does that guy. Field hockey? Yeah, he likes that too. Synchronized swimming? That’s totally his favorite thing ever. Did you know he always loved Sex and the City 1 and 2? When a guy starts showing interest in things you like (or pretends to anyway), especially things you wouldn’t think they’d be into, then it’s highly likely he wants to be closer to you.
#5 SPECIAL ATTENTION
If you’re out in a group, does he pay more attention to you than anyone else? If so, everyone else sucks and he clearly thinks you’re cooler than a polar bears’ toenails. A guy would push a million old ladies into traffic if it meant getting to spend time with or talk to the girl he actually cared about.
#6 PET NAMES
If a guy gives you a super cute pet name, he probably likes you. Those things are not easy to come up with. Those things take a lot of time and effort to come up with. It’s gotta be cute, possibly funny, and definitely unique. And bestowing a pet name upon you separates you from all the other pet-nameless women in his life.
So, if you’re wondering how to tell if a guy likes you then peep the above signs. If a couple are true than he probably has some interest in you. If more than that apply, though, ring the alarm because you’ve got a full grown crush on your hands.
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