Dear MISSter Simms,
I started dating this guy a couple of weeks ago who works at one of the local hospitals around here. He just joined this new heart time at the hospital and now has to be on call 24/7. I live about 30-40 minutes away, so that means he won’t be able to come to my place for now. He also found out that his young daughter may have contracted bronchitis. I talked to him twice on the phone last Saturday, but haven’t been able to get in contact with him since. I’ve called and sent numerous text messages. Do you think he’s trying to avoid me now? Could he be using what’s going on as a way to pull away from me? Maybe I did something wrong without realizing it? What I really want to know is is it over?
What Did I Do?
First of all take a long, deep, slow breath…and stop trippin’. You just started dating this dude and you’re already blowing up his phone? Take a few (hundred) steps back and give the man some space. Give him a chance to actually miss you instead of thinking you may be some needy, future stalker type. And really, between being on call all hours of the day and having to deal with a sick daughter, he’s got some pretty good reasons not to be trying to phone smother you.
Is your relationship over? It’s tough to say. You’ve only been dating two weeks. If he wasn’t extremely busy juggling two major things at once, then I’d say it was definitely over or at least on life support. But he could just be too busy saving lives and trying to get his daughter straight to talk to you on the phone all the time. That doesn’t mean its over per se, more like it’s on hold.
I suggest you stop running up your phone bill calling people and wait for him to ring you up. In the meantime go out and get a hobby. Meet some new people. Just don’t focus all your energy on this one, possibly no longer available, guy.
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