Me and my partner have been dating for the past seven-ish years, and I think I’m at the point where I want to tie the knot and really start making a life together.. Do you think I should continue waiting for my significant other to pop the question? Or should we sit down together, have a discussion, and come to a mutual agreement as to whether marriage is or isn’t a good idea at this time?
There are few things more nerve wracking in life than popping the question. Popping zits? Potentially painful, but pretty easy. Popping bottles? Rappers and dudes in the strip club seem to do it all the time with relative ease. Popping the trunk or hood on your car? Definitely not what I’d consider nerve wracking. You only push one button. How much easier could it get?
But popping the question? Wooooo lawdy. First you have to think of when you’re doing to do it. Then you’ve got to think of where. Do I propose at our favorite restaurant? Should I do it at the place we first met? Maybe the sewage treatment plant down the street? After you’ve figured all that out, your next move is to figure out how to do it. Getting down on one knee is so passe these days with people expressing their love on billboards, Jumbotrons, or through fake movie trailers. And once you’ve finally got all that together, there’s the whole actually asking the question business, the most stressful of all. Sure it seems like 99% of the time people say yes…but what happens if you get a no? Oh I dunno….a mental breakdown and a one way ticket to the land padded rooms and white coats?
My point is, if you yourself are thinking about marrying this person and they haven’t popped the question yet, then yes you should bring it up with them. Personally I think it’s absurd that in this age of supposed independent ladies that people still cling to traditional roles like their lives depended on it. Your partner might be too scared to pop the question. They might not even feel like the timing is right for whatever reason (financially, not THAT into you, whatever). But all these things can be found out with one simple conversation, and hopefully you’ll be able to figure out what both of you want. And if marriage is it, then hooray! No more waiting around wondering if there’s an engagement ring planted in your drink whenever you go out to restaurants.
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