The release of Sex in the City 2 has made me pretty nostalgic this week. I’ve been thinking back on all the lovely ladies that I’ve had in my life that I’ve had the honor of calling my “best friend” and all the fun that we’ve had together. As women everywhere grab their besties and head to the movie theater to see Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda embark on their latest grand adventure, this week, I’m obsessing about one very visual way to tell the world that you have a best friend: the best friend charm.
Back in the seventh grade, I remember going to the mall and getting my first “best friend” charm necklace. This was a big deal, as you had to make sure you had a friend who wasn’t already someone’s best friend (you can’t have more than one!), and you had to agree on who was going to get what half of the charm. Sure, plenty of girls had friendship bracelets, but were you lucky enough to have a half of a gold heart that said “be fri” or “st ends”? Even at this relatively young age, girls felt the need to outwardly show that they had someone who was not just a good or a better friend, they had a BEST friend. For me, this usually meant I got right of first refusal for sleepovers and pool parties, or would be able to borrow a pair of shoes or earrings (funny how that part doesn’t seem to change). But, one year in the life of an eleven year old is tantamount to an eternity, and I had a new best friend (and a new necklace) in the eighth grade.
Fast forward over (ahem) twenty years (gasp) and while I may not be in contact with the girls that I was best friends with in Junior High, I am veyr lucky to have a some very special friends who I consider my “best” girls. We’ve been through a lot together: new boyfriends, advancements in our respective careers, breakups, marriages, divorces, babies and death. We’ve been on holidays together and have to visit over the phone because we’re not all in the same city. We’ve laughed far more than we’ve cried together, but we’ve all got strong shoulders for each other if we need it. I think if I had to get a charm for any of them, it wouldn’t be half of a heart from the mall. It would be something a little more tongue in cheek…like a bullet or a cleaver on a chain, because nothing says “I got your back, girl!” more than that! After everything we’ve been through together, I don’t think any of us would hesitate to cause some damage if the situation called for it (although I’m denying a literal interpretation of that!).
Until next week (and my next obsession)!
Graphics by: Michelle
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