I passed by a group of young men the other day, and one of them, for a reason I would describe as pure unadulterated hate, said, “her hair is fake.” One, that was plain rude and two, my hair isn’t fake. I turned around and told him just that. He just said, “Ok.” Granted, my hair almost reaches the end of my back and most people think I wear extensions. But, they have the decency to ask me instead of spouting forth negativity my way. I didn’t then and still don’t get the point of him pointing that out with a loud enough voice for me to hear him.
Many women of different ethnic backgrounds wear extensions; it’s no longer just a “black girl thing.” Or was it ever? Adding a bit or a lot to what you’ve got isn’t a bad thing; it can change up your look in a matter of hours (depending on how much you’re putting in) without committing yourself to a drastic new look that would be much harder to rectify. Sporting a weave doesn’t make one more fake than a woman who rocks a natural do; such has been said before. My friend recently decided to forgo the perm and extensions and let her hair do its thing, and I must say I was proud of me. I was proud because I knew she would be going against her parents’ opinion that she looked poor wearing her hair creamy crack-free as Chris Rock calls it.
I think many women are obsessed with long hair because in North American society, long locks are tantamount to femininity and desirability. I am quite glad when I see a gorgeous woman rocking a pixie cut or a completely shaven head; I secretly wish I could be so brave. I’ve grown attached to my locks and I think I would regret my decision. Actually, I had a quarter life crisis and I wanted to wear a short black wig to experiment with a shorter hair style without taken the actual plunge! Although, I soon got over that…
All this to say is that weave or no weave, long hair or no hair, we’re beautiful (corny, I know). Women shouldn’t be put down for wearing extensions regardless of whether the reason behind it is to diversify her look or because she just prefers longer hair or even if she just thinks it’s more socially acceptable. To refer once again to Chris Rock, it’s about what’s inside your head, not what’s on it. So to you, young man who decided to be rude about my hair, I say, get a clue.
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