Recently Phoebe Prince, a 15 year old high school student killed herself after suffering months of bullying at the hands of her peers. The sad thing is that situations like Phoebe’s are becoming more and more common. Young girls are wounding each other beyond repair over guys, clothes, and whatever other superficial things teenagers obsess over these days. Even more serious is the fact that these teenaged aggressors, unlike the characters in Mean Girls, very rarely learn their lessons and go on to become mean women. Ladies, why can’t we all just get along?
From age 12-17, I went to an all-girl’s Catholic school and know firsthand how vicious teenage girls can get when a false sense of competition is involved. I’ve seen girls get nasty and force alienation on someone who they perceived as a threat, and make that person’s life a living hell. They hunted in packs like wolves and wielded the female tendency to form bonds verbally and emotionally as a weapon. It was more like watching a pack of wolves take down an animal on National Geographic than watching high school drama. Sadly, almost ten years later I know for a fact that some of these ladies only got and not wiser. Need proof just turn on the TV.
The women of The Bad Girls Club, Real Housewives of ATL/NYC/the OC/Jersey, and that new abomination Basketball Wives, all prove that for some odd reason women have been made to believe that we are in constant competition with each other. I bet if you look back into any of these “ladies’” pasts you’ll see that they were high school mean girls or girls who were bullied and believed that the only way to survive was to eat or be eaten. These are the same women who spread rumors at work, get crazy when their man looks at you in the club, and are prone to insane amounts of drama. Trust me ladies, being a professional mean girl is a sure way to end alone, no man wants a drama queen and no one wants to be friends with one.
At the heart of this petty behavior are deep seated insecurities that often stem from a false sense of limited supply and unlimited demand. Since I’m no Frasier Crane, nor do I pretend to be, all I have to say that we need to wake up ladies. There is no need for this, whether you’re 18 or 48 it is not acceptable to go around hurting other people for whatever reason your therapist made up this week. Do you realize that if we pooled all of energy, time, and creativity wasted on tearing each other apart and focused it on doing whatever it is we were put on Earth to do, women could rule the world? Instead we’re stuck dodging bullets from middle school to the nursing home. Shame on you.
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