I’ve always heard the saying that “nice people are happy people.” In terms of my life, I’d have to say that this is pretty much true. I’ve had some tough times especially here lately with the passing of my father, but for the most part I’m a genuinely happy person. I’ll admit that sometimes I can be “nice to a fault”, but it’s always easier to catch more bees with honey than it is with vinegar, right? (or some Bulls*** like that?) My point is: I like… (dare I say it) being nice! I like making people happy! I like to see people smile and I love to make people laugh! However, what I don’t like is when people take advantage of my “niceness” or mistake it for weakness. If I let things slide every now and again, it doesn’t mean that I’m stupid, have no clue as to what’s going on, or will necessarily let it happen it again. On the contrary, I, along with most people who are being taking advantage of, know when or if it’s happening. In minor cases, it’s just a matter of choosing my battles. In severe cases, it’s only a matter of time. Everyone has a breaking point and I feel mine quickly approaching with some of the people in my life.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not particularly placing all the blame on others. I know that we ultimately set the tone for the relationships in our lives and decide how we allow others to treat us. However, knowingly taking advantage of someone with good intentions is not cool at all. Being taken advantage of sucks! The hurt turns into anger which may soon lead to bitterness. Who wants to be the bitter bitch? It’s certainly not me! It has also caused me to doubt myself and question things that I already know to be true. For instance, my intelligence level and not to mention my street smarts have been called into question lately. Before, I’ve always been pretty confident that I’m not lacking too much in those areas. Now, I wouldn’t put money on it. Being taken advantage of so many times has made me feel inadequate. It’s all one big mind game that has me frustrated beyond control! The questions are never ending, but one pops into my mind the most. I want to know how do I still hold on to my niceness (and ultimately stay true to myself) without getting all “Kelly Cutrone” on these bitches?
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