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Life 2.0 by OHW2007: MILF In The Making


Dear OHW2007,

I am in a weird situation. I have a crush on this guy but there’s two dilemmas. One is that he lives in a city that is 5 1/2 hours away from me, and two is that I am having a baby. I am no longer with the father and we have both agreed we’re not going to pretend to be a couple because that would cause more harm than harmony. He has already started dated another girl and I am totally fine with it, the only unfair advantage of course is that I am the one who is physically showing the pregnancy so it just looks bad. Plus i think its also a taboo in many cultures and probably illegal in many countries. But this new guy is really great and we get along really well. He’s well aware of my situation and that hasn’t stopped him from talking to me, which means our feelings are growing more and more. If we decide to get together I obviously cant do anything with him until many months later and on borrowed time, so it will almost be like high school when you made your boyfriend wait a while to prove himself to you. Am I being too hopelessly romantic or should I just stop now, before I end up in a dysfunctional relationship?

-MILF-to-be

The Professional:
Dear MILF-to-be,
First off, I have to say that I’m very impressed with your emotional maturity. The fact that you’ve been able to realize the harm of raising a child in an environment in which the parents are not on the same page speaks volumes on your emotional strengths. I wish you the best.

As for your relationship issues, it sounds as though you are taking them day by day, which is the only way. Although a long distance relationship does present some struggles, my sense is that you’re moving forward with eyes wide open. I really don’t see a dilemma if you and your new interest are fully aware of what is expected of the other. If you’re just friends, well, just make sure you’re not emotionally committing yourself to anything more than just being friends. Be careful, be very careful, you don’t want to get ahead of yourself or your heart. With everything else that is happening in your life, you should focus on stability and consistency. You are entering the next stage in life’s journey, the less bumpy the road the better.

Remember dysfunction breeds when people don’t have the same expectations. If you and your new interest are on the same page, and both of you have the same answer when asked “what’s next”, well your starting off on the right foot.

Oh, don’t be so concerned with advantages or disadvantages, I’m sure you look as beautiful as ever.

The Jerk:
Ain’t that some shit. Papa is a rolling stone and already working a new angle. I wonder what his pick up line was, “Yo lady, my seeds work, wanna go gardening?” I get it, the relationship didn’t work, but dude, at least ease up on your game until the bun is out of the oven. Who is he, Johnny Apple Seed? Shit, all of that money going to the new girlie should be going to a college fund for junior. I just don’t understand people.

Alright, this is about you, MILF-to-be, and not your ex-homeboy, sorry for the rant. Your pregnant, big deal, you still have needs. If you like dude, spend time with dude. Just make sure dude has an idea as to what’s up. The last thing you want is for him to be on some “this is my pregnant friend” shit while your hoping for more. That’s some tough shit. To be honest, if I was in your shoes, I would be on some all men are assholes type of shit for a few months. I mean, you might be on some rebound shit. Listen to some New Edition and cool it down for a bit.

But what the fuck do I know, if you want to take another chance on the relationship roller coaster, do what you think is best. Just remember to take care of yourself. Sometimes being alone makes us stronger, sometimes we spend to much time looking for love in others when we need to realize that all the love one needs is inside oneself. Ain’t that some “awww” type shit right there.

Oh, and one thing I do know, after seeing the movie Knocked-Up, pregnant ladies can still get down, so . . . uhh, I’m think I’m going to stop right now before I lose this column.

Have fun, be honest with yourself, and tell your baby’s daddy to start forking over the lunch money.

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One Response to “Life 2.0 by OHW2007: MILF In The Making”

  1. angelita bonita says:

    haha… i’m lovin’ the two different perspectives of advice :)

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