Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate your loved ones and show them how much you care. For a holiday that’s meant to be full of love and happiness, in actuality it’s often fraught with stress and sadness. Many people in relationships stress about getting everything just right, while many single people are full of scorn, resentment and sadness. Below, I’m outlining some tips that may make the holiday breeze by more smoothly, but in the end, remember, Valentine’s Day is just another day, and we should be showing the ones we love how much we care everyday. If that doesn’t make you feel better, just think of all the chocolate that’s going to be on sale on February 15th – that always cheers me up!
In a Relationship
If you’re in a relationship, there are so many questions that pop up around Valentine’s Day: What should I wear? What should I get for a gift? How can I make the night romantic? And so on. With the economy in the state that it’s in, money will undoubtedly play a factor in many of these questions. My advice? Keep it simple. Showing someone you love them is not about how much you spend – it’s about the thought you put into the gift. Now is a perfect time to get crafty and make that card or break out the icing and start baking. Or, sort out your music and make your best ever mixtape. Even better, instead of going out to eat with the rest of the world, stay in and make a romantic dinner together. A few simple ingredients, some candles and some music and you’ve got a better dinner experience than you could get at a fancy pants restaurant.
Single and Not Interested
Valentine’s Day can be difficult because some people use that day to come out of the woodwork and express their undying love for you – many times it’s someone you would have never guessed (or wanted to have guessed). If you don’t reciprocate the person’s feelings let them off easy. You don’t need to be rude to get your point across. Someone put some thought and effort into making sure you felt loved, and even though you don’t return the feelings, you don’t need to be unkind to express how you feel (unless they’re a stalker). A polite “thank you, that was very thoughtful” will do – no pressure for anything more! Just don’t be mean and stomp on the person’s heart.
Single & Out With The Ladies
For people not in relationships, Valentines’ Day often become a day to get all your lady friends together, get dolled up and intake large amounts of booze. There’s nothing wrong with that – everyone likes to let loose and have some fun. The problem is what happens after the booze . . . lots of women look for love in all the wrong places. They end up hooking up with a dude because he’s there and it happens to be February 14th. Ladies, don’t do anything stupid that you’ll regret the next day. Valentine’s Day is just like any other day – don‘t make it into a big deal and it won‘t be.
I hope your Valentine’s Day is full of love and happiness!
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